Mindfulness and the Type A Student

I am the mother to a Type A student, a very Type A student.  You all know the kind; she cried at every 89%, attended every school function then studied all night, and took every Honors, AP, Dual Enrollment class possible, even if it meant taking it online.  She applied to too many colleges, spent too much time stressed, and missed out on so much fun.  And part of it was my fault.  I, like many tiger moms or helicopter parents pushed her – really pushed her.  I share this because I regret the anxiety I pushed on to her.  

And then strangely, she pushed back.  She pushed back by choosing the path of incorporating mindfulness and integrative health into her study of kinesiology in college.  She has been able to identify how stress negatively affected her learning and her well being.  We were having lunch a few weeks ago when she gave me a brief description of “walk meditating.”  This was from a student who spent most of high school living out of her car, so she could almost be on time to all the events she over-scheduled herself for.  Although still focused on doing well and very involved in school, she was able to take power back over all the “excessive stuff” in her life.

I called her the other day, after I had a very stressful day at work. I asked her to tell me five things that would help me be more mindful.  I had been feeling not very present and distracted by all the many things that pulled me in opposite directions.  It was making me irritable and frankly, not very happy.  This is what she texted me (side note, it took her an extremely long time to text me back: the girl is no longer governed by her iPhone).

1) We naturally are lost in thought 47% of the day. When you aren’t living mindfully (living in the present moment) we are putting ourselves at risk to become either depressed or anxious.

2) This happens because when the brain is reliving a moment in the past (ruminating) we tend to be far too critical of ourselves and this can lead to depression. When we do the opposite and constantly worry about the future (projection) we cause ourselves to become anxious.

3) An easy way to pull back from either ruminating or projecting is to notice things around us (i.e. take note of 3 round objects or 2 things that are green etc).

4) Being mindful isn’t about ignoring negative emotions and pretending they don’t exist. It’s about acknowledging those hard emotions and instead of mindlessly reacting to them, mindfully deciding how to handle the situation.

5) An easy way to calm our nervous system and turn back on our parasympathetic nervous system is to do the 4-7-8 breath (breathe in for 4, hold for 7, breathe out for 8).

And there it was from an 18 year old, one who had spent pretty much her whole teenaged life ruminating or projecting, letting me know how to be present. In the short time she has committed to her exploration of mindfulness, she has reported to be happier and get better grades.  She has called me upset way less (I do miss the phone calls).

Through technological advances, we know how the human brain works.  Neuroscientists have been able to see that mindful practices and meditation support the development of gray matter and memory centers, it can decrease area in the amygdala, the area that governs fear and stress, and it can improve attention and concentration.   We know that mindful practices are helpful for our students and that their cell phones are making them lonelier and their over-scheduled lives are not good for them.

Many schools, including the high school where I work and my daughter attended incorporate mindfulness into the day.  But knowing what we know about increasing numbers of students who are struggling with depression or considering suicide, it is time to take a serious look at the science and make mindful practice a core part of what we do, not just an extra for some kids.  Whether it is for our highest achieving, overbooked kids, our kids who are struggling in their homes or with behavior issues, our kids who are reporting feeling alone and without connections, or even our staff, schools should design times and spaces for mindful practice to support all.

Thank you to my daughter for really showing me what I knew, but did not act on.  And kudos to ASU for having a space for students to practice and learn about mindfulness in their lives.  We should all follow suit.



Jaime Festa-Daigle

My name is Jaime Festa-Daigle and I was born here in Arizona. I work as the Director of Personnel and Technology at Lake Havasu Unified School District. I’ve taught everything from ELL to 8th grade English to student council to college level government and economics. I was recognized as the American Civic Educator of the Year in 2012. I am fully focused on ensuring rural students have equal access to educational opportunities as their metropolitan counterparts. My current passion is the development of mentor and induction programs for novice school leaders in rural communities.

I am an NBCT, Arizona Master Teacher, and an Arizona Rural Schools Association board member. During the small moments where I am not focused on how to make Lake Havasu Unified School District the best district in AZ, I am usually nerding out on politics, fretting about my children and pugs, or working up a sweat at Cross Fit.

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